The Silas Project


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The Silas Project Blog 


Flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness,  faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart. 2 Timothy 2:22

Who We Are:

We are a fellowship of Christian men seeking victory over sexual sin in the varied forms in this modern world. We seek to recover that which was lost through our sin-- our manhood, our relationship with God, our families and our ministry. We seek this not through any specific system, but rather, by living lives of authenticity, openness and humility. We acknowledge the truth that victory can be found in Jesus Christ. That simple truth alone has the power to transform our lives.

Pornography is a plague that has destroyed countless lives and can also destroy yours. The sobering truth is that you do not have the resources to change within yourself.

Until God is your chief concern — until sinning against him is what makes your heart break — you will never turn the corner.   -Heath Lambert

For most of us, becoming ensnared by sexual sin happened easily and naturally. Perhaps you have mustered the hope that you would someday be free from sexual sin and grow out of it as naturally as you grew into it…It never did. Later you assumed you’d be freed naturally through marriage. But- as for many of us- that didn’t happen either…You got into this mess by being male; you’ll get out of it by being a man.  - Every Man’s Battle

What Can I Expect:

Groups are less than 12 people. All are welcome; you do not have to be a member of a specific church to attend. Meetings begin with a reading from the Bible and a prayer followed by a group discussion or lesson. You can share as much about your situation as you feel comfortable. Or you may just listen. All information is held confidential among the group members. Meetings are generally last an hour.

When: Formal meetings occur every other Wednesday. Smaller, informal meetings take place in the interval, usually in the evenings.

Where: Meetings are held at Lynnhaven Presbyterian Church

Where Do I Start: Watch the videos and read some of the statistics provided on this website and view some of the information on the blog. If you are ready, send a confidential, encrypted email to You can provide as much identifying information as you would like. One of the members will be in touch with you to offer prayer, support and information on ways to get connected. Or, choose to come to on of our bi-weekly meetings

Why: Because you are not alone and no one should fight alone. Each of us needs a traveling companion – a Silas- on the road to recovery. The name TheSilasProject was inspired by Acts 16 when Paul finds himself at one of his low points and yet Silas was right by his side.

After they had been badly beaten, they were put in jail, and the jailer put them deep inside the jail and chained their feet. About midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing praises to God and the other prisoners heard them…and suddenly there was an earthquake so that the foundations of the prison were shaken and everyone’s chains fell off. -Acts 16

How did I get here:

We almost never talk about these struggles in Christian circles. Not surprisingly, most men feel alone and even hopeless. As the losses pile up, many come to believe that victory is impossible or that God must not exist or must not care. The truth is that God does exist, you are not alone and that victory is possible.

Most attempts to quit alone are unsuccessful. While Jesus does offer a personal relationship to all, He never promises a private one. Experience has shown us that victory is found in moving from isolation into authentic relationships with other men in the body of Christ. Taking that first step in faith is scary, especially since this is something that most keep secret. But the Bible says the church is like a body, a living thing that moves together. That means on any given day, every member of the body needs help and every member of the body has some help to give.

The Statistics:

  • 98% of men have been exposed to pornography
  • 1 in 5 mobile web searches were for pornographic content
  • The most popular category for these searches was “youth”
  • Pornographic content accounts for 69% of pay-per-view internet content, outpacing news, sports and video games
  • 79% of 18-30 year olds reported visiting a pornographic website at least once per month
  • 64% of self-identified Christian men admit to viewing pornography once per month. (compared to 65% of non-Christian men)
  • Christians who identified as fundamentalist were 91% more likely to look at pornography.
  • 54% of pastors admitted to viewing pornography in the past year
  • 7% of self-identified Christian men admit to viewing pornography multiple times daily (among non-Christian men, this number was 1%)
  • Approximately 7% of churches have any program in place to deal with pornography
  • 40 million US adults admit to viewing pornographic websites.
  • 4.5 billion hours of pornography was watched in 2015
  • 56% of divorces involve one partner having excessive interest in pornographic content
  • 63% of adult men have looked at pornography at least one time while at work in the last 3 months.

What Now?

1. First take a deep breath. Everyone has to begin somewhere. You may wish to determine where you fall on the spectrum of sexual addiction by taking the Sexual Addiction Screening Test. The SAST has been in place since the 1980’s. Go to
2. Pray to God. Admit, perhaps for the first time, that you are desperately in need of His help. Ask that He would send help your way and that you would have the humility to receive the help when it appears.
3. Learn again what God is like by beginning to read the Bible daily.
4. Consider becoming involved in our group by either sending a secure email to or coming to one of our meetings. We will send you some resources that we have found helpful.